A Good Marriage is Really Glorified Friendship

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I have a friend who is a professional wedding planner. She has helped people with their wedding events for over 20 years. Sometimes, I help out on the big weddings to ensure that everything runs smoothly for the happy couple.

My friend has a good record of predicting the longevity of the marriages just from the wedding planning experience. These are some of her observations for those who tend to stay married:

• The groom is a real part of the planning, not a silent presence.
• Both the bride and groom are respectful of each other’s ideas.
• They want their wedding to be nice, but they are easygoing, welcome ideas, and talk alot about how they want their guests to enjoy the event.
• They have small to reasonable size wedding budgets.
• They have a small to reasonable size number of attendants.
• Their focus is on small, meaningful personal touches rather than glam and glitz to impress guests.
• They are always polite to all the hired help.
• They are always polite to their parents and siblings.

And these are her observations of the marriages that struggle or end in a short period of time:

• The bride does almost all the…